Shivani Dubey considers everything which goes on once we fall in love
Ever since we were born, we were taught that we live in a world where everyone has freedom of speech, freedom of expression and what not. It is written in all our Civics text books, no matter what part of the world we are from, right? Well, let me tell you something: whatever you’ve learnt about this so called ‘freedom’ is a big fat lie. In reality, if you try to say or do something which is ‘unusual’ or not accepted by society, you’re bound to be judged by everyone. In fact, this judgement goes so far as to decide who we fall in love with. And it’s not just our parents or friends who get to have a say in this, even the government weighs in on the matter.
Let me explain: have you ever seen someone snicker at a heterosexual couple, call them derogatory names or even look at them in disgust? Can you say the same for a couple that is a part of the LGBTQ+ community? I don’t think so. If they so much as hold hands in public, chances are someone will take offence to it, even if that situation doesn’t affect them in any way whatsoever. Name me one country in the entire world where heterosexual marriage is a crime? The answer is zero. Now name me a country where homosexual marriage is banned? The list could go on forever. Why is it so? Because there are so many countries in the world where same sex marriage is banned and looked down upon by the government. If people from two different casts or religion decide to get married, there is an uproar. You hear things like “How can they even think of marrying each other?” or “How can a girl marry a girl or a boy marry a boy?”
“Have you ever seen someone snicker at a heterosexual couple, call them derogatory names or even look at them in disgust?”
So, who gets to decide who we fall in love with? Who gets to decide who we get married to? Our family? Friends? Society? The government?
The answer is no one but you. YOU should be the only person in your life to decide who you get married to, whether it be to someone from the same gender or from some different religion. No one apart from you should get to have a say in who you love or who you marry or literally anything else you do in your life. No one in this world should have the authority to control your life in any way. No law or government should get to decide who you love. There shouldn’t be any “referendums” or “votes” to decide whether same sex marriage can be legalised in some country. It should be an understood phenomena, just like heterosexual marriages. No one questions those. No one raises a finger when a man and a woman are getting married. So why question homosexuality? Why raise fingers on same sex marriage? What is wrong with that? Instead of a man loving a woman and vice versa, it’s a man loving a man and a woman loving a woman or even both!
Is there any secret ingredient being involved when two homosexual people love each other? Are they doing anything different from heterosexual couples? No! Love is love, no matter who it is directed to. And although we are making a lot of progress in this matter, this situation shouldn’t even have had to occur in the first place. No one should be allowed to decide where someone’s heart resides. Not me, not society, not anyone. Just you, all you. We need to understand this. The world needs to understand this. And I hope that someday we will.
“No one in this world should have the authority to control your life in any way”
But until then, raise your voice, scream out loud and fight for what you believe in. Educate people who are ignorant, fight for the underdogs, make a difference. Spread love, happiness and kindness wherever you go. Because it’s you, and only you, who has the power to decide what you want to do in your life. Use it. And then someday, maybe, just maybe, we will have the world we always dreamt of.